How to Help Someone Get Unstuck

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Everyone gets stuck at some point. At work, in a relationship, or in a situation.

The uncertainty overwhelms (and sometimes paralyzes) us. And our emotions often worsen the situation.

At such times, we look for solutions on our own, going deeper into what we already know.Read more

The Opposite of Posttraumatic Stress Disorder

examples of posttraumatic growth

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

I can remember three events that impacted my life the most.

The first was a difficult phase for my family where it felt like everything was falling apart. The next was when I fell deeply in love with a woman who initially responded positively but suddenly stopped talking to me.Read more

Always Remain at War With Yourself

Over the past few weeks, I’ve been terribly upset because of the terrorist attack at Pulwana and what followed.

I’m fairly good at accepting that people do not share the same views as me. But in the last few weeks, I’ve lost my cool at friends and family members who “stepped out of line.” (Who decides the line anyway, especially the ones that don’t involve personal boundaries?)

In other words, I lost control of my actions.Read more

What is on Your List Right Now?

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Reacting to criticism and provocation.

Reacting to something I find offensive (especially on the internet).

Reacting to someone who’s publicly trying to one-up me.

One word can sum up all these (re)actions — futile. But there’s another word to sum them up, one that resonates with many people — tempting.Read more